There was once — you recall — a notion of evenings, a time when your hours were your own. Such times are gone now, however. They’ve been replaced to the duties of motherhood, the constant observation of your children (they’re so gifted at finding trouble, but they’re even more talented at asking you to help them out of it). The happy concept of a night on the town is one you can’t indulge in. There is too much to consider, too many potential complications. You worry always about leaving your loved ones, allowing them to remain on their own. They aren’t as… sensible as you are. You fear they’ll suffer for it.
This doesn’t mean that you’re meant to suffer, though.
Mothers must understand a simple truth: they deserve moments to themselves. Leaving the house on occasion — enjoying something as common as a film — will bolster spirits and relieve tension. All stress can be forgotten, replaced to all too unfamiliar smiles. It’s necessary to seek a break.
It’s also therefore necessary to seek a sitter.
You can’t allow your children to remain alone at home. This is tempting disaster, challenging fate. They must be supervised. A sitter then is the best solution — an individual who will offer you the hours you need and the care you expect, without demanding a too high cost.
Too often do mothers believe no sitter could be worthy enough to watch their children. There is an instant distrust for strangers; there is an easy dismissal of all teens. But refusing to utilize those who have proven themselves to be responsible (through references and safety courses) is absurd. You deserve time to yourself. Allow someone to help you achieve that.
Ask friends and family for recommendations. Interview all candidates extensively. Provide all emergency information and rules. And then… go enjoy yourself. Find the right sitter and take advantage of an evening. You’ve earned this. You must embrace it.
